TOP TIPS FOR MEETING YOUR IN-LAWS FOR THE FIRST TIME

TOP TIPS FOR MEETING YOUR IN-LAWS FOR THE FIRST TIME

Meeting Your In-laws?

What To Do

Marriage is beautiful, it really is. It’s also a really crucial part of our lives.

When you prepare to spend the rest of your life with that special someone, the event of meeting the in-laws is often unavoidable. I mean, you could wait around for them to die, but I strongly advise against that.

Everyone gets cold feet when it comes to this aspect of the relationship, that’s why I’m here, to help you find your way around your in-laws.

Do your homework.

tips for meeting your in-laws for the first time

Before showing up, it’s very important that you do your research. Find out their hobbies, interests, passions, traditions and cultures – if it’s a multicultural relationship. Asides from giving you something to talk about, which will boost your confidence, it also makes you more likable. Showing them some interest and knowing how to respect their opinions and cultural values will always work in your favour.

Bring gifts.

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When invited over by your spouse’s parents, never undermine the practise of bringing a thoughtful gift. Don’t bring anything too specific to them, like a limited edition camera or a sold-out novel, that just reeks of desperation. Flowers or wine and you can never go wrong.

Dress properly.

tips for meeting your in-laws for the first time

I know it’s good to be yourself, but don’t get too comfortable on the first meeting. Dress for the occasion and look your best, it won’t hurt to put on a nice suit and get a haircut or wear that dress that makes your skin pop. Dress to impress.

Compliment them.

tips for meeting your in-laws for the first time

What better way to get your in-laws on your side than to pay them well-thought-out compliments. Compliment their home. Compliment her cooking or her looks, compliment his art collection or the car parked in the driveway. Make them feel special.

Preparation matters.

tips for meeting your in-laws for the first time

Asides from knowing their backgrounds and interests, you should prepare for healthy conversations. Get well versed in current affairs and trends, so as to avoid giving vague and awkward replies. Also, try to prepare some conversation starters so it feels like a conversation and not an interview.

Avoid controversial topics.

tips for meeting your in-laws for the first time

As tempting as it is to delve into deep topics like the existence of God, global warming and Donald Trump’s obsession with his wall, or Brexit, steer clear of topics that can affect the way they see you on the first meeting. Get them on your side, get them to respect you and then you can have healthy debates.

Be polite and well mannered.

tips for meeting your in-laws for the first time

When spending time with your in-laws, you’re going to be probed and scrutinised; they want to know you’re good enough for their son or daughter. So try to be good mannered; mind your etiquette, show up early, refrain from talking too much, be attentive to your partner, help out when you can and do not smoke, even if you’re offered.

Be yourself.

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Don’t over stress it, in the end, what counts the most is your partner’s opinion and they’ve already chosen you, that means you’re already special. Be yourself and be genuine, if you pretend to be something you’re not, it’s only a matter of time until

they see through your act and your relationship with them will be affected. Be confident in yourself, that’s what got you there in the first place.

Last, of all, enjoy yourself- you’ll be great!

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