How To: Write Your Vows

How To: Write Your Vows

If you are reading this then you have made the important decision to write your own vows, or you are at least considering it. If you are not a natural writer it may seem like a daunting obstacle to be able to write the perfect vows filled with emotion and love – but we are here to show you it doesn’t have to be that difficult. Follow the tips below to help you write vows that may not be perfect but, are perfect for you and your significant other.

Writing Your Vows

  • The best thing you can do to get your creative juices flowing is to read some other vows on the internet for inspiration. You could even scour through some love-related quotes, listen to your favourite romantic love songs, or spend the day at the library reading romantic literature to help motivate you.

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  • Make a note of all the points you must make during the vows, this will help you to structure your words, not ramble about loads of different things, and make your vows meaningful and heartfelt. It could be some of the things you have been through, what you are grateful for, and of course, how you feel about them. Take a trip down memory lane and relive all the experiences in your relationship that led you to this moment. Was there a specific day, a sentence, a feeling in time that stuck with you until this day? Make notes of all of those things and choose the most special ones to include in your vows.

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  • Vows are promises, so think about the type of promises you want to make to your significant other and include them. You can make general promises to stick by them in sickness and in health, or you can make it more personal. There is no right or wrong way of doing this, remember that and dig deep into your heart to get all the answers you are looking for. There is no denying that the more personal your vows are, the more special and unique they are to you and your beloved.

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  • Avoid making your vows too comical or embarrassing, that’s usually for the best man’s speech, now is the time for you to make your heartfelt promises and declare your love to your significant other in front of your closest circle of people. You don’t want to exclude anyone during this important part of the day.

Practice makes Perfect

  • Write out your vows and read them out loud, perform them even, so you can get a clear idea of the wording and how they sound when said aloud. You can make tweaks while you proofread them.

 

  • Read your vows to friends or family and consider their feedback on things such as tone, structure, and length, but remember that ultimately these are your vows to someone you know better than anyone else. So always keep it original and authentic to your relationship.

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  • There is no minimum or maximum limit to how long your vows must be, but try and make it less than two minutes. You want to make a show of emotion but you don’t want to be losing your guest’s attention and repeating the same points.
  • Once you have proofread, received feedback, and got the timing right, practise your vows a few times. You could stand in front of a mirror and work on your physical delivery, listen to your words so you can identify issues – such as any long sentences that need to be shortened – and make sure the words roll easily off of your tongue. You don’t want to appear tongue-tied and unprepared when the big day comes around.

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  • Make sure you have a nice, fresh, presentable copy of your vows for the big day. Avoid taking previous drafts that have notes scribbled on them and consider printing them out to have an even neater presentation.

 

  • And finally, when the big day comes; take a deep breath before you start talking, look into your partner’s eyes and let it all flow from your heart. It might feel like a lot of pressure, but remember this is all about you, your significant other, and the love you share. Try to forget about the other people in the room and focus on your partner, direct all of your attention and words towards them.

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The HUBBEE Team

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